OrangeSky wrote:Earth2Mama wrote:O.k. I'm seriously starting to consider it. I've definitely know since I was young that I didn't want to get married - I have no desire to. My parents are old school and very old fashioned - sex after marriage, children after marriage.
Nevermind that neither one of them adhered to this ... but that's potatoes and patotoes.
Of course, "their" children must to do better than them. LMAO Yeah, riiiiiight.
Parents rarely practice what they preach, in my experience.
I think we're in similar camps, El. At this point, I'm pretty sure it's just not something that's going to happen (that being said, neither of us is friggin' ancient or anything
). If it happens, great. If not, that's okay too. I may have a kid one day, I may not. I may adopt a bunch. What do I know? I'd rather figure out who I basically am, what I value, and spend the time alone than get married to someone just for security. (And I am speaking strictly about myself here - I make no assumptions about anyone else or their choices regarding marriage.) I'm very strong willed and private and I value my personal space. (I'm a big proponent of the personal bubble. I love the personal bubble. The personal bubble is my friend. The personal bubble is everyone's friend. Respect the personal bubble.)
And I like sex. Sex rocks. And I refuse to wait just in case I might be married, just to have that. No thank you.
Oh I definitely get you with the personal space. I was such a loner when I was a pre-teen all throughout my teen years and beyond. My room was my own little private sanctuary. I could literally live in it. However, my parents began to worry I was antisocial. That wasn't the case, I just was trying to avoid someone (which is difficult when you live in the same house) and my room was the only place I could escape to that was my own (Reasoning is a long ass story and if you want to know the details, PM me as I'm not comfortable sharing them on an open forum).
I've been on my own since I was 21, paying my own rent and I love it. I come and go as I please, I do whatever the hell I want and answer to no one. I'm not against marriage - just for me. If you can make that commitment, that's great. Just don't treat the institution as a mockery - like some celebrities are doing. You should not get married because it's "
in fashion" or "
everyone else is doing it, why not me". If you go into it for those reasons, it's no wonder the divorce rate is at an all time high. I take marriage seriously. Since I seriously have commitment issues, I've avoided it like the plague and that works fine for me. People are using divorce as a band aid to fix what they "
feel" or "
think" is wrong with their relationships. One minute they're married and toting on the happiness, then next a wrench gets thrown their way and they want a quick out. That's just ... so friggin' wrong!
I'd love to adopt a child. I would totally do it in a heart beat as well, I just don't know if my salary would allow me to. But, it's always something to think about, just in case I can't have a child of my own. There are children out there that need good homes and people to love 'em. And ... I've got
A LOT of love to give to a child.
Sex! I was wondering if this topic would ever come up
I waited until I was nearly in my late 20's to loose my virginity (I'm not kidding either), because of the old fashioned church "
values" my parents instilled in me. I learned however, you can't please anyone but yourself. And you shouldn't be made to either. You do what is right for you. And as long as you don't hurt anyone else, then anything you do ... is a-O.k.
Oh goodness, it's been so long, I swear I'm a born again virgin
I've been in such a drought, I am in serious need of someone who will flood my fields and pronto! I miss sex ...
