Okay, first let me start off by saying I am not a Maria basher. This is just my
opinion. But everyone always makes it seem like Michael was such a bad boyfriend. Yeah Michael pushed Maria away hundreds of time. But the difference is one: He told her from the beginning that he wasn’t a good person to be with. Two: she was the one that continually pursued the relationship. Michael was by no means the best boyfriend in the world, but he tried. Was Michael and Maria’s relationship abusive? I don’t think so. But I also don’t think Michael deserves all the credit for being the jerk in the relationship, because Maria was no “perfect girlfriend” herself.
nibbles2 wrote:Maria was a young, emotionally fragile teenager who had been badly hurt by her father leaving when she was only a child.
I understand how this conclusion can be drawn, and I’m sure there are theoretical examples that support it, but other than the scene where she said she imagined her father coming to sweep her and her mother away, I don’t think Maria was ever really portrayed as being too choked up about not having a father.
nibbles2 wrote:Michael had the emotional intelligence of an egg and just genuinely wasn't able to handle the relationship. By the time he learned, Maria needed something else.
Be that as it may, the fact can’t be ignored that Michael still completely changed who he was for Maria. That’s no small accomplishment for a normal
person. The way she dumped him was kind of cold, in my opinion. To begin with, she wanted him to be someone that he really wasn’t, and when he became that person for her she wanted him to change something about himself that he absolutely could not. The fact that he was an alien.
nibbles2 wrote:She had seen her friend lose his life because of the aliens, she saw Liz commit armed robbery, she had lost contact with all her other friends and had a good relationship with her mother all because of her involvement with the aliens
All true. But Tess
was responsible for Alex’s death. Michael couldn’t have been more supportive of Maria during that time. And it was Liz’s
choice to become Max’s walking doormat in the third season. Michael didn’t even want to involve himself in Max’s whole “search for my son” saga. And neither of those things really had anything to do with Michael, other than the fact that, yeah, he’s an alien too. As a matter of fact, as ironic as it sounds, by the third season, Michael was the most human of all the aliens. Working two jobs, bowling with his homies lol
As far as the other friends thing? Well boohoo for her. So she lost contact with a few friends that she was obviously not that close with to begin with. Michael had no
other friends beside Max and Isabel. Max definitely wasn’t Mr. Popularity and Isabel’s “friends” were obviously superficial. At least Maria had Liz and Alex. Her two best friends.
And both of them were in on the secret. And of all the teens, I’d say Maria maintained the closest relationship with her parent than any of them. Including Kyle, and his father knew
All in all, my biggest problem with Maria dumping Michael was that her excuse for dumping him was that she didn’t want to be involved in all the alien stuff anymore. But there wasn’t even anything alien going on when she dumped him. At least not for her. And as far as the whole following her dream thing goes. Well Michael was supportive of that too. He was even protective of her, and for her to tell him that “They’re lives were no longer linked” when she was the one that involved him in the first place was a big slap in the face.
I know I kind of got off topic at the end there. But I just wanted to give my opinion on the whole Michael and Maria relationship drama.