killjoy wrote:Rowedog wrote:killjoy wrote:Well like I said Maria is the one who was doing the hitting in the relationship.Some said it was for good reason....but I don't think there is any good reason to hit someone in anger when you're in a relationship.Had Michael smacked Maria upside the head like that for any reason people here would be coming down on him.
I think it has to do with the whole mind set where a guy should be able to take a hit and just shake it off to show how tough he is.But if it's wrong for Michael to hit Maria like that than she shouldn't be allowed to hit him in the same way as far as I see it.
She did it once, when she found Courtney in a towel in his apartment. That's hardly a pattern, and frankly given the situation I think she reacted quite calmly .
So what your saying is that if the reverse has happened say a guy who had been hitting on Maria all the time had stopped by her house and was walking around in just a towel and Michael came over and saw this it would be okay for him to hit Maria on the side of the head? He would just be acting calmly as you put it.
Okay KJ yes you're right there's a double standard when it comes to girls and guys and violence, but that's one that seems to only be thought that way by men. I and most of my other girl friends believe that if a women hits a man then the man has the right to defend himself or at least restrain the girl using whatever means necessary. I know too many guys who are more than willing to just sit there and let a woman wail on them because they aren't suppose to hit girls, and I'm like you're crazy. So it's not something that a lot of women buy into. However you're acting like what Maria did was violent. She smacked him upside the head, she didn't beat him down, she didn't even try. If she actually wanted to hurt him she would've hit him somewhere else and probably more than once.